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For many young people the American speaker has become a kind of Catholic celebrity,脗  preaching Pope John Paul II鱿鱼视频app writings on chastity in layman鱿鱼视频app terms.脗 

鈥淗e has great stories of how (chastity) is really doable,鈥� said Kowal.

Since Hardy, 22, introduced Kowal, 29, to Theology of the Body he鱿鱼视频app become well-versed in it.脗 脗 脗 

The couple, who鈥檝e been in a long-distance relationship for just over six months, have vowed to save sex for marriage. But they explain it鱿鱼视频app more than merely abstaining from sex in a脗  mechanical fashion, it鱿鱼视频app about living chastely with an attitude that respects sexual relations inside and outside of marriage for the rest of their lives.

鈥淢ost people think that when you are married it鱿鱼视频app free reins, sex galore, but even in that married relationship Christ puts bounds to make sure you are living out that relationship with love,鈥� said Kowal, who owns Ekko Built, an Ottawa-based company that helps office towers conserve energy.脗 脗 脗 脗 

鈥淧eople think (chastity) is a big long laundry list of thou shall nots. But it tries to protect the integrity of love... get closer to God and... love another person. It鱿鱼视频app a thirst for the real deal,鈥� said Hardy, a fourth-year economics and life sciences student at the University of Toronto.脗 脗 

Pope John Paul II devoted the first major teaching project of his pontificate to human sexuality. He delivered 129 short talks between 1979 and 1984, explaining how Catholics are to understand the nature of sex in a positive light. Decades later couples like Kowal and Hardy are trying to understand and practically apply the late pope鱿鱼视频app teachings.

鈥淎bstinence is a facet of chastity, but I think chastity in itself encompasses many different things. It鱿鱼视频app sort of a way to express your sexuality in a way that affirms your dignity and in turn you are also affirming someone else鱿鱼视频app human dignity,鈥� said Hardy.

Brett Salkeld and Leah Perrault started Tobias and Sarah ministries, giving chastity presentations to young people in the Toronto area. One challenge they脗  face is convincing people it鱿鱼视频app important to wait without suggesting sex is bad.

鈥淐hastity has a lot of potential for causing guilt trips.... Sex is good and it鱿鱼视频app best when it鱿鱼视频app done in the right context. We say marriage is a full self-gift and sexual intercourse is the manifestation of that self-gift,鈥� said Salkeld, 27.

鈥淲e try to tie the physical gifts we give each other to how you give yourself socially with someone. Are you comfortable praying with each other? Being around family? Communicating with one another? In marriage you give your social self, emotional self, sexual self... It鱿鱼视频app part of this whole gift.鈥�

Salkeld suggests sex is also a natural progression. 鈥淪ex isn鈥檛 jumping off a cliff 鈥� it鱿鱼视频app steps.鈥澝� 脗 

Kowal agrees: 鈥淚f you haven鈥檛 kissed on the first date then society thinks it鱿鱼视频app wrong. If you don鈥檛 do that you have to explain it鱿鱼视频app not because I鈥檓 not attracted to you or I don鈥檛 see a future, it鱿鱼视频app because this is how I鈥檓 living out my chastity.鈥�

Respecting boundaries does come with its share of difficulties.脗 

鈥淚t鱿鱼视频app just hard because when you really like somebody you want to be able to share that facet of yourself with them. The hardest thing is being conscious of lust and desire,鈥� said Hardy.

鈥淭he other person can be sitting in a way that鱿鱼视频app just like 鈥泈ow! OK,鈥� 鈥� said Kowal. He explained that just acknowledging the struggle helps.脗 脗 脗 

He would tell Hardy, 鈥淲hen you sit like that it鱿鱼视频app hard for me to have my thoughts in the right direction and obviously (she) cares about so (she鈥檒l) move and act in a way that鱿鱼视频app not tempting.鈥�

Knowing where to draw the line is not easy and unfortunately there is no self-help manual that outlines exactly how far is too far.

Hardy thinks about how she wants her future husband to view her and vice versa. 鈥淗ow far would they be able to go before you felt offended or disrespected?鈥�

Kowal lets his moral compass be his guide and he said not following it feels like a 鈥渕oral hangover.鈥� He finds is guidance by going to Mass and Confession regularly, reading books like Theology of the Body and when he is tempted he says a Hail Mary.

鈥淲hen you鈥檙e saying those words you are drawn to that beacon of family, that beacon of virtue and you are really just calling out to her for help as a young person.... Mary encompasses all the beauty of a woman and so I think that usually helps me as a guy.鈥�

Hardy adds: 鈥淲hen all else fails, you have to trust that the truth is the truth is the truth. The church鱿鱼视频app teachings have been there for 2,000 years. When all else fails you have to trust that this is the right thing to do.鈥�